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Jamie ITMA – 28th September 2021

A very busy session with the usual puzzles etc, plus David’s all new clay crafts and Jamie to entertain us.

Jamie sang a lot of old songs and dressed accordingly. Who remembers Andy Pandy?

We were pleased to welcome Gary (from the Carers Centre) and Sinead (from BLG Mind).

David worked with a group of keen clay modellers to produce some delightful tiles.

David presented Janet with a birthday present – a lovely painting of the two of us at the group.

The dancers enjoyed a variety of dances – these look easy.

The Reflections Friendship Group is next at Shrewsbury House on Tuesday, 12th October at 1pm.

Please note the Shrewsbury House car park is closed for about two months. Street parking is available.

If you know someone who has dementia and you think might benefit from coming to the group, please contact us on 07981 741 499. Numbers are limited and many safety measures will continue to be in place.

You may now nominate Reflections as your charity when you buy items on Amazon. Click here for more information. It does not cost you (or the retailer) anything and Reflections will receive 0.5% of what you spend.

Tony – 14th September 2021

A less frantic group this week. Tony played some popular tunes, with a sprinkling of livelier ones for the dancers.

He is always happy to play requests – if he knows them.

As ever, we had a session of quizzes, word-searches and jigsaw puzzles.

The new member of the group have made the dance floor their own. A few notes on the guitar and they are up and away.

The Reflections Friendship Group is next at Shrewsbury House on Tuesday, 28th September at 1pm.

If you missed the recent Forever Young Festival, you missed a treat. Reflections’ friend Jamie was there in full panto costume. Another group favourite, Emma, had her choir entertaining the audience. The Carers Centre had invited a wide variety of local groups to run stalls, including Reflections. A minor downpour didn’t dampen spirits.

Please note the Shrewsbury House car park will be closed for about two months. Street parking is available.

If you know someone who has dementia and you think might benefit from coming to the group, please contact us on 07981 741 499. Numbers are limited and many safety measures will continue to be in place.

You may now nominate Reflections as your charity when you buy items on Amazon. Click here for more information. It does not cost you (or the retailer) anything and Reflections will receive 0.5% of what you spend.

Carers Group: 13/09/21

The group was very busy this evening.

Private funding for a care

A carer is trying to find day care and respite for her mother who she is worried about, because of immigration status. She will pay for private care, but is finding it difficult to find anywhere suitable. Suggestions were: MIND/ Greenwich Carers Centre and Care Homes UK. The Alzheimer’s Society’s Help Line “Talking Point” helps people with dementia all over the world
Another carer wishes she had gone to social services earlier, not private. It is wise to involve social services, but have a short list too. Have a consultations with social services.
Tatiana said, when you speak to social services tell them about the homes you are interested in and ask about your finances, if they fall below the threshold and what happens?

NHS dealing with their backlog

A carer’s step father (aged 85) is going in for a hernia operation tomorrow. It was cancelled before in lockdown. She said he is getting a bit unsteady walking about, but he enjoyed the dancing at Reflections last week!

Confusion

A familiar member of the Reflections group hadn’t been seen recently by her brother and sister-in-law as they have been on holiday. She has been confused using her microwave, as it has an oven in it – so she cooked a plastic dish and melted the little ring thing that holds the plate. She has to remember the right function! (an interesting conundrum).
She said she won’t complete the attendance allowance form. Janet reminded the carer that they have  LPA so they can complete it. She has it in her head that lots of people are moving and she doesn’t want to be left on her own, so she phoned the council and they said she could move, As her brother has LPA he can phone the council and explain her needs.
She is independent at the moment but on bad days she gets confused. Her brother brings her ready meals. She now has a Fitbit which she is learning to use.

Planning ahead

A carer has been away and her mum was well cared for while she was away. She says mum has had a dip over the last few months. The daughter has been planning ahead for her mum investigating various care homes. She is concerned about the finances when money runs out and what happens between different boroughs. Who picks up the funding? Tatiana said the different boroughs would have to decide. Another carer said quote the care act if boroughs are in disagreement.

Visiting those cared for

A new carer said her father is in Worthing and she has only seen him once. The home has strict restrictions still and are not flexible on visiting her dad. She is finding the restrictions very difficult. 

Another is trying to look after someone in a high dependancy ward. She is able to visit three times a week.

Stable-ish

A dad is relatively stable at home at the moment. The family haven’t heard from cardiology team, after a considerable wait. Dad has issues with hygiene – he forgets what he has to do. 

Practical considerations

At an easy stage it helps to try and sort out practical things. The Carers Centre is going to look at the attendance allowance and help to gather up evidence. The carer is finding it distressing as its all seems to be negative.
The group advised her to look for the good, what can be done. Once the form has been filled in it’s done. It will help to make life easier. The wife says the rational and emotional side of doing all the paper work is difficult and hard to do. She is trying to see the funny side of some situations. She gets Fridays to see friends it she needs something else to do.

Another carer remembers having get the points for attendance allowance. Theirs was off the scale! 
He has been to Orkney for 10 days while his wife had a live in carer. She didn’t realise he’d been away. She gets agitated but all is fine. 

The Queen Elizabeth and Lewisham hospitals

Janet informed the group of the Dementia nurse (Kate Hudson) at QE. She’s there Monday – Friday, 8.30–5.30. She will go and see the dementia person if you contact her. 


Also if you need to go to hospital A&E you can dial NHS 111 and they will book an appointment for you. QE and Lewisham.

Next meeting 11th October

Elvis in the building – 31st August 2021

This week we had a special visitor – Mr Elvis Presley. He sang everyone’s favourite tunes and got the room singing and dancing.

Janet was keen to have a picture with himself..

Before the entertainment, we had a serious period of quizzes, wordsearches and dominoes.

Our volunteers, David, Julie and Pearl were in top form. No jokes from Pearl this week… so next time we should have a bumper offering.

Everyone was wearing their visors and there was social distancing – but Elvis still managed to generate a great atmosphere.

Gary, from the Carers Centre, was giving confidential advice.

This time we only overran a little bit. Fortunately, the Shrewsbury House cleaning team had plenty of time to sanitise our three rooms before the evening rush.

Gyda stayed afterwards to share this reading:

The Reflections Friendship Group is next at Shrewsbury House on Tuesday, 14th September at 1pm.

Please note the Shrewsbury House car park will be closed for about two months. Street parking is available.

If you know someone who has dementia and you think might benefit from coming to the group, please contact us on 07981 741 499. Numbers are limited and many safety measures will continue to be in place.

You may now nominate Reflections as your charity when you buy items on Amazon. Click here for more information. It does not cost you (or the retailer) anything and Reflections will receive 0.5% of what you spend.

Jamie returns – 17th August 2021

We had another very enjoyable afternoon. The entertainer was our favourite quick-change singer. Jamie produced another dazzling display of danceable dexterity as a star studded stable of singers.

Here is… a Beatle, Shirley Bassey and Sandie Shaw.

Caroline from Asda also popped in to say hello to the group and we took the opportunity to thank her, and Asda, for their continuing support.

Joanne managed to entice people away from their puzzles to hear about the Greenwich Ecology Park. You can find out details of the park here.

As usual, there was plenty of singing and dancing.

We welcomed back our favourite archer, Marc

Marc first showed us how to use a bow and arrow in April 2017 – some of us (me) haven’t improved since then.

We are very pleased to have Emma running the cafe. She is a welcome smiling face and is making great food and drinks.

In addition to the group activities, here are today’s bonus recordings from Pearl and Gyda:

Pearl’s shellfish:

and

Gyda on gentleness:

The Reflections Friendship Group is next at Shrewsbury House on 31st August at 1pm.

If you know someone who has dementia and you think might benefit from coming to the group, please contact us on 07981 741 499. Numbers are limited and many safety measures will continue to be in place.

You may now nominate Reflections as your charity when you buy items on Amazon. Click here for more information. It does not cost you (or the retailer) anything and Reflections will receive 0.5% of what you spend.

Carers Group: 9/08/21

We were back on Zoom again this evening. The group discussed developments in their caring roles over the last month. We had carers who had come to our first Friendship Group back at Shrewsbury House soon 3rd August and were keen to discuss the experience.

Increased Anxiety

The pandemic has forced many of us to spend a lot of time at home with very little contact with other people. We had the time to become content with that. Now we have the opportunity to go out and mix more, the prospect can be daunting.

A carer said her mum had been out twice recently. Before both outings, she was very reluctant to go. She made many excuses and said she expected to be unwell on the days. Following some gentle encouragement mum agreed to go. At our Friendship Group, she dance and joined in with the activities. She said she enjoyed herself. At the other outing, she enjoyed some food (actually, lots of food and asked for a doggie back to take some away). A couple of very successful days, but needing a bit of encouragement to set in motion.

Getting fro A to B

Another member said the person she cared for had been very keen to come to our Friendship Group. He can be rather confused, but very stubborn. He said he could find his way yo Shrewsbury House (he had been there many times before). He aimed to arrive at 12, eat something in the cafe and be ready for our group at 1pm. Unfortunately, he got a bit lost and arrived at 2:15 pm. He had a good time at the group, but agreed using a taxi would be a good idea in future.

15 visits to hospital

We have missed a couple from our Friendship Group who couldn’t use Zoom. We had an update on developments this evening. The carer told us that her husband was still a cheerful man. Sadly, following a fall, his condition had worsened and he was now bed ridden. He had needed 15 visits to the hospital. The support from the District Nurse had be good, but time limited. Now suitable carer support was difficult to find. The group made some suggestions from carer organisations they had used. Volcare was providing some support, which enabled our member to have shot breaks from constant caring duties.

Time for a break

A speaker was pleased to say that he was due to have another trip away, thanks to the very good live-in carer from Bluebird. His wife had been in something of a decline, but had stabilised recently.

Getting professional help for the carer

We are very pleased that one member of the group has chosen to speak more about her own therapy. She reflected on some of the points I brought up in my ‘7 Tips’ session (see below). She quoted “We become what we think about all day long”, emphasising that negative-speak reinforces our negative opinions. She had taken inspiration from the work of Wayne Dyer.

Reluctant visitor

We returned to the enjoyment another member had found with their loved one at our Friendship Group. Again there had been reluctance to come, but shortly after our entertainer started to play, they were up dancing. Confusion and paranoia continued to feature and the carer’s own health had deteriorated. Fortunately, family support was keeping things moving forward.

His version of normal

We were please on the improvement of the dad of a carer. However, his blackouts were still a mystery. The memory Clinic had discharged him, as they could not find out what was wrong and he was now looking for further support from his GP.

New

A new meter said how helpful she had found listening to the discussions and people’s experiences and frustrations. She would be back (she and her husband also enjoyed the Friendship Group).

Seven tips to reverse a bad day – Peter’s presentation

Everyone has bad days. While bad days are common for all of us, you may not have thought about the ramifications that your bad day can have on yourself and others you run into. The tips on how to reverse a bad day are here.

Postscript

We had the most unusual apology yet from someone who didn’t make our meeting this evening – they were in prison! Fortunately, they work there and were let out later.

Next meeting 13th September

We’re back! – 3rd August 2021

After 16 months on Zoom, we returned to Shrewsbury House. We also celebrated our 5th birthday.

Peter and Janet demonstrated the see-through visors. These enabled us to talk, sing and see each other, without problems. We had a variety of safety measure in place, including restricting numbers to half the usual room capacities and ensuring suitable ventilation.

After an hour of chatting, quizzes and birthday cake – we were ready for some entertainment.

At this point we welcomed our friends from Exeter via Zoom.

Tony was in top form. He got us singing and dancing to some great songs from the 50s, 60s and 70s.

Garry, from the Carers Centre, popped in to give advice and guidance.

The Carers Centre and BLG Mind will be sending representatives every 12 weeks for 1 to 1 advice sessions.

Pearl and Gyda were very popular on-line, so we plan to record regular contributions from them. Here’s today’s recordings:

Pearl’s special jokes:

and

Gyda on gratitude:

We are very grateful to ASDA Charlton and their Community Life Champion, Caroline, for providing cakes, drinks and entertainment for today’s session.

The Reflections Friendship Group is next at Shrewsbury House on 17th August at 1pm. Numbers are limited and many safety measures will be in place.

You may now nominate Reflections as your charity when you buy items on Amazon. Click here for more information. It does not cost you (or the retailer) anything and Reflections will receive 0.5% of what you spend.

Flower and produce – 27th July 2021

After 16 months on Zoom, we came to the last online meeting of the Reflections Friendship Group.

We had a selections of photos showing members gardens, prize blooms and vegetables. There were a lot of excellent examples. I particularly liked this rose named after our member J.

We didn’t have time for Gyda’s craft, but if we had, we would have produced a lovely flower like this.

We had a chat about our favourite crafts over the last months. C was keen on this flower (you can see a theme here).

Nikki, from BLG Mind told us about the Greenwich Peninsular Ecology Park.

More information here.

We hope to see Nikki, in person, for the first time next week.

Pearl’s bumper edition of jokes:

O told us she woke up at 3am one night and looked at this web site. She worked her way through Pearl’s jokes (in the general menu under Recordings) and really enjoyed herself.

Pearl’s songs included “Congratulations, by Cliff Richard. This was played for A&G who will be celebrating their 44th wedding anniversary. Congratulations from all of us.

Gerry’s joke:

An old poem:

Gerry is branching out! Jokes and poems – an extra special offering.

Lynne had a flower quiz:

  • What part of the flower is called the corolla?
  • Which cut flower is the most popular in the world?
  • What type of flower is a ‘Lady’s Slipper’?

Lynne had to quickly run off for a toilet roll – so she could do ChiBall.

ChiBall is a serious matter.

Gyda on planting:

The Reflections Friendship Group returns to Shrewsbury House on 3rd August at 1pm. Numbers are limited and many safety measures will be in place.

You may now nominate Reflections as your charity when you buy items on Amazon. Click here for more information. It does not cost you (or the retailer) anything and Reflections will receive 0.5% of what you spend.

Looking back on Zoom – 20th July 2021

A very hot day. The group spent some discussing who had sunshine, rain, thunder and/or lightning. By the end of the session, I think we had all had some of everything – except for our friends in Exeter, who just had extreme heat.

Today it was a day to remember the fun we have had on Zoom. The poll showed Pearl’s Jokes were clearly very popular – but exercise did very well too. The members said they did addition exercises outside the group to keep flexible (no-one mentioned cycling, although we have some keen cyclists in the group).

Not everyone joins in with the craft sessions, but those that do are very positive about the quick crafts. The poems “were always appropriate.  Often touching and uplifting“. The other sessions were also popular – including the Reflection reading – and the missing Quiz sessions.

The most popular was the chats. A said they brought back lots of memories covering lots of topics.  C said they provoked lots of memories. D suggested that when back at Shewsbury House we could possibly record peoples’ stories. P enjoyed the funny stories.  L enjoyed finding out about other people’s lives.

The Shrewsbury House poll speaks for itself. We look forward to being back there soon.

No Gyda this week, but we did have homework to show.

David showed us several of his paintings. We hope to see an exhibition when we return to Shrewsbury House.

Pearl prepares for the Olympics:

Pearl’s songs were “Memories are made of this”, “Magic Moments” and  “Daydream Believer”.

Lynne did two quizzes – Here are some questions about Nursery Rhymes:

  • The grand old Duke of York had how many men?
  • Lucy Locket lost her pocket; who found it?
  • How did Doctor Foster go to Gloucester?

Lynne always enjoys being quizmaster, but some of her questions are very tricky.

Janet encouraged us to be In the present moment

The Reflections Friendship Group returns to Shrewsbury House on 3rd August. More information coming soon.

You may now nominate Reflections as your charity when you buy items on Amazon. Click here for more information. It does not cost you (or the retailer) anything and Reflections will receive 0.5% of what you spend.

Reflections 5th birthday – 13th July 2021

We have put the celebrations on hold until we return to Shrewsbury House.

Today it was a day to remember summer holidays.

  • C – learnt to paddle board in Greece. Recently also on Romney Marsh Lake. She’s hoping to do more maybe at Danson Park. 
  • G&M – had a coach trip to Scotland and became friends with a couple from South Africa. They flew to South Africa where they had a wonderful time and went on safari for 5 days. 
  • L – in Ireland with a friend going on holiday to Turkey. They had to drive to Belfast, but her friend went the wrong way and then nearly ran out of petrol!
  • C – when young, her brother broke his leg falling off a wall just as they were about to go on holiday. They didn’t drive at that time as her Dad worked on the railway. It was a bit of a palaver getting to Butlins and then they all caught a tummy bug. She has never been again.
  • R – paid 61 euros for a trip to the Blue Lagoon and he was the only one there.
  • A&G – had a relaxing holiday last week in Cornwall.

Gyda – holidaying in Egypt riding camels and quad bikes in the desert as well as visiting the pyramids. 

Gyda had rays of sunshine for our craft today.

Janet’s bumper joke bundle:

Janet had us singing and dancing to “Summer Holiday” by Cliff Richard, “Is this the way to Amarillo” by Tony Christie & “Ring of Fire” by our man Tony.

Gerry on “Summer Holidays”:

Gerry is always keen to give us an appropriate poem.

A quiz with answers beginning with “A”:

  • A beaded counting device
  • Hawaiian greeting
  • Chinese treatment with needles

Lynne is always the consummate quizmaster.

Gyda ran her usual ChiBall session

then read “Your best

Plans are in development for our return to Shrewsbury House.

You may now nominate Reflections as your charity when you buy items on Amazon. Click here for more information. It does not cost you (or the retailer) anything and Reflections will receive 0.5% of what you spend.