Julian Garman – 22nd November 2022

Julian warmed us up with another top quality show.

The tunes were very varied and the audience sang and danced along (some sat and danced).

Dot and Jen were in seasonal spirits.

Plenty of dancing and singing kept everyone in the groove.

Next session we have our Christmas party. The elves will be very busy to ensure everyone has a good time.

After that we have a short break and we will be back in January 2023.

As 2022 is coming to an end we want to thank all the wonderful people who have made donations to the Reflections charity this year. Your help enables us to run the charity and makes a real difference. Thank you.

The Reflections Friendship Group is next at Shrewsbury House on 6th December at 1pm.

The always popular Vikki will be here to entertain us.

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Carers Group: 21/11/22

Notices

  • Janet introduced and spoke about the upcoming Self Care Workshop.

Member updates

New members, old problems

A new member of the group supports her brother in Australia. He has limited support there.

Another new member  cares for her mother who is living in sheltered accommodation in Eltham. Her mother has been independent, but is now worried and scared making excuses not to go to the communal area. She is also not drinking enough. A regular member spoke about his wife and the struggle to keep her hydrated. He suggest suggested fruits, ice cream and jelly. Janet suggested there may be someone in the home that could encourage her mum and to contact Social Services to do an assessment. Janet said her thirst receptors may be affected. People can get to a point where they feel unsafe, thinking “If I stay in can be safe”. Another carer had to go with her mum to the Queen Elizabeth hospital recently as she had become dehydrated.

Here is a link to Good Hydration and how to ensure that someone is not becoming dehydrated. The Dementia UK website has lots more useful information.

Not taking medication

A sister-in-law spoke about the person she cared for refusing to take her meds as she had read the side effects on the leaflet.They are trying to contact Monica Crugel (at the Memory Clinic) for a second opinion. They have an appointment in January. The person with dementia hasn’t taken her meds for about three weeks now. Tatiana said if they were worried about the situation they should ask to speak to the doctor again and put it in writing. Ask for a mental capacity assessment and what needs to be done – copy it all over to Monica. Janet recommended asking for a written summary of the meeting.

Feeling low

The next speaker said her dad is feeling down at the moment and has low energy. He is not responding to the usual things that they do. He doesn’t go out as much.  People do come to see him, but it upsets him and he gets aggressive and says he’s going to bed. Another carer said unexpected guests can unsettle her mum too. She has a friend who comes to see her three times a week. Janet asked if he was on antidepressants as he may need a low dose.

Mobility

The next conversation covered a mum who has mobility issues and how she shakes if she opens the front door. The son said he has good and bad days, but focuses on the good.

Time for a holiday

Finally we were updated about a mum who is in a care home after a lot of problems. Sadly her mum no longer recognises her. The daughter is going on holiday for the first time in four years.

Next meeting 12th December 2022.

Jamie Steen- 8th November 2022

I suspect Jamie had been to his costumier…

We enjoyed a wide variety of 60s top tunes..

New members were put to work making their own name badges.

There was enthusiastic dancing, but some of our volunteers were ready to surrenderer after an hour of frantic Twisting, doing The Mashed Potato and The Locomotion.

Julian will join us at our next session.

The Reflections Friendship Group is next at Shrewsbury House on 22nd November at 1pm.

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Vikki Melrose – 25th October 2022

Halloween time.

A spooky session, as befits the season.

Even the crafts were slightly batty.

Here is some of the artwork crated by our members (with thanks to David for the inspiration and framing).

Gyda’s crafty cats were very popular..

Everyone on-board for The Love Train. Thanks to Vikki for some great songs.

The Reflections Friendship Group is next at Shrewsbury House on 8th November at 1pm.

Jamie will be with us next time.

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Tony Martin – 11th October 2022

Tony brought the sing-a-long.

More top tunes from our favourite decades

Tony’s best tunes are here.

David has his craft group working well. Carmen was circulating.

Dancing was popular, as was holding hands.

Carmen from The Greenwich Carers Centre offered confidential advice to our members. The Centre has useful information here.

The Reflections Friendship Group is next at Shrewsbury House on 25th October at 1pm. Vikki will be with us.

You may now nominate Reflections as your charity when you buy items on Amazon. Click here for more information. It does not cost you (or the retailer) anything and Reflections will receive 0.5% of what you spend.

Carers Group: 3/10/22

Notices

Member updates

Problem carers

A mum is a bit negative and anxious when going out. Her daughter has changed tactics, not telling mum when they are going to go out until just before, when she’ll say “get your shoes and cardigan on”. They are having problems with carers that don’t turn up at the arranged time, not talking to her mum, and not staying to the arranged time. Today’s carers were quite brisk and loud speaking. The daughter sometimes will be working upstairs and can hear what’s going on – sometimes the carers only stay for 3 or 4 minutes. There is a picture calendar on the wall so that carers can talk to mum about it – some do talk to mum and some do not do anything. Janet asked if they log in and out in a book? There is a book for any issues and an on-line system, but it’s difficult to get on and it’s kicks you out. Tatiana recommended collecting evidence and get more understanding of the system.  When do they record? Who’s checking? Does it work as it should? It is important for management to know how the carers should be talking to the people they are for.

Time for help – but what sort?

A sister went to the Memory Clinic and has been given Risperidone medication [you may read more about antipsychotic drugs here]. She said she doesn’t want to be “spaced out”. She has cut the tablets in half and today she said she only has one weeks supply. She rang tonight saying she’s too tired and has thrown the box away. The brother is going round tomorrow to sort it all out, he said it’s approaching the time when she will need someone to come in to help. She’s been burning food again, but doesn’t know how often this is happening. Another carer had the fire brigade up to her mum’s house to assess and fit appropriate detectors and alarms [you may read about the London Fire Brigade’s home fire safety visits here]. The brother wants to put in a camera, but his sister won’t have it. Janet said some action needs to be taken as these are important tablets and you can’t just stop and start taking them. Janet recommended contacting the head person at the Oxleas memory clinic (Monica Crugel) and ask for another opinion.

Going for a walk

A carer has had a very stressful time as her husband went walk-about on Monday, leaving the front door open. He went out in slippers and no coat. It came up on the new Ring doorbell – it’s stressful every time her phone goes off. He is mobile and active, but not steady on his feet. The neighbour saw him go to the end of the road and back again. If it happens again she may have to give up work and set up a rota. Tatiana asked there is it the same or different times when he went out? Is he looking for some stimulation? Maybe more interaction when he’s on his own. His wife said there wasn’t a pattern. Pre-Covid he used to walk a lot. Janet suggested speaking to Maria Jenkins (Volcare) they provide half a day or one day once a fortnight. They provide a free service (Greenwich and Bexley).

Gyda read: “Love soothes all ruffles”:

You might empathise with the author of the popular blog:

Midsummer Madness by Georgina Grant

Next meeting 14th November 2022.

Jamie Steen- 27th September 2022

Jamie came with another selection of unusual outfits that managed to fit his choice of hits from the 50s and 60s.

He managed his quick changes, and had everyone singing, dancing and joining-in.

Gyda looked after the craft room and kept everyone busy.

Dot and Jen were busy looking after the quizzes, puzzles and colouring.

Dancing is always optional, but always popular.

Tony will entertain us at our next session.

The Reflections Friendship Group is next at Shrewsbury House on 11th October at 1pm.

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Tom Carradine – 13th September 2022

A new performer today -the delightful Mr C.

Tom got (nearly) everyone up dancing and singing to songs old and not quite so old. The Abba medley went down well, as did the Beatles. There was also the promised knees-up.

A busy dance floor – as ever.

Earlier, David’s craft table was popular – as was Gyda’s.

Carmen came from The Greenwich Carers Centre to offers confidential advice to our members. The Centre has lots of useful information here.

The Reflections Friendship Group is next at Shrewsbury House on 13th September at 1pm.

Jamie will be with us at our next session.

You may now nominate Reflections as your charity when you buy items on Amazon. Click here for more information. It does not cost you (or the retailer) anything and Reflections will receive 0.5% of what you spend.

Carers Group: 12/9/22

Notices

  • Reflections is part of Greenwich Demential Action Group (DAG). Angelika, the group leader, is holding workshops for Lasting Power of Attorney (LPA) at the Eltham, Greenwich and Woolwich Centres. Details are here.
  • There is a new Oxleas – Greenwich and Bexley team. They will will starting a year long project testing and implementing support for dementia in care homes, looking to reduce medication, one to one support and placement breakdown. Initially to work with five care homes and then may roll it out to all care homes. Hannah Debenhams is the new senior manager
  • MIND  – have a Memory Cafe at the Carers Centre (Stables) first Thursday of every month. They will have  activities and there will be someone from MIND to talk to.The next Carers training programme will be in November.
  • Assessments – Oxleas have a ten to eleven week wait for new people. People with urgent needs will be prioritised. They are struggling to fill vacancies and have a locum consultant at the moment. Greenwich is behind the national average to get a diagnosis. Louisa will be at the Carers Centre on the first Thursday of the month 1.00 – 3.00 pm. Magic Moments is the same day from 10-00 – 12.00 for anyone with dementia diagnosis (discussions, quizzes). It’s upstairs and there is a lift.

Member updates

Holidays

Husband and wife carers have been away to France and are feeling refreshed. The husband thinks his sister switched her phone off, but a relative fixed it. They think maybe she turned it off and couldn’t remember how to put it back on. They haven’t broached the subject of medication yet and the sister hasn’t made an appointment.

Another carer has also had a week away (very nice). She had everything in place for her mum before she went. Mum was ok – but slightly more confused. She doesn’t remember that her daughter has been away. Her doctor says that mum is physically well. The daughter said she needs to worry less. Janet – it’s the nature of dementia, always anticipating, enjoy the love. The daughter is going to trust her sons more and she might go away again!

Visitors

A daughter said her dad had good days and bad days. Her dad’s brother came for a visit. Her dad had not seen his brother since 2018 and it was good for him. He did recognise his brother and was able to follow the conversations. Her dad didn’t recognise some of the other family members. When his brother had to leave it was hard for them both. They are going to enjoy things in the moment.

Jigsaw puzzles

A step daughter had nothing dramatic to report. Some parts of his mind seem to function and some parts are like a jigsaw puzzle with bits missing. He is still collecting stuff that people put out side (for example – a chest of drawers). She is worried about the heating bills as he does not have central heating in the house, just plug in appliances, heaters, fans etc. Janet asked does he heat all the rooms or just the ones he’s in? She said – the water is heated in the tank and there are a lot of trailing cables to worry about, but his son is the main carer and is aware of the situation.

Jelly drops

A husband had gone out on his own, leaving the front door open and without keys. A neighbour called her. He doesn’t remember going out. His memory is getting worse. His diabetes and diet are ok. He uses jelly drops for a liquid top-up. They are expensive, but they stop him getting dehydrated. He has arthritis in his hands quite badly and has difficulty opening the tray as it has two layers. He has to work out how to get them out and where the edge is to open them. Janet – suggested contacting the company about the design of the packaging. Another carer suggested an internal cameras so the wife can see what’s going on (the system has a microphone too). She uses a Ring Doorbell. This carer said she is able to pick up on her mums behaviour and if she is getting agitated or anxious. It gives her reassurance.

New

A new member of the group said that after listening to everyone he has gained insight in what is to come. Janet said everyone’s experiences will be unique to them. Group members all told him how long they had waited for diagnosis and how the dementia had progressed. One has not yet been diagnosed. The new person talked about his wife’s constant tiredness. Today she didn’t feel well, but did attend her appointments. Tatiana – asked if she sleeps well and was she eating and drinking enough. He said that she says she is not hungry. She goes to bed early and gets up late. They are waiting for a sleep monitor. She’s a light sleeper. Tatiana asked if she has lost interest in doing certain activities, as she may be depressed. Janet said, due to chemical changes in the body, “tiredness” can be depression. He said he will bring it up with the GP as she had antidepressants before when she had a spine problem.

Gyda read: “Serenity”:

You might empathise with the author of the popular blog:

Midsummer Madness by Georgina Grant

Next meeting 3rd October 2022. Please note, this is a change to the first Monday in the month.

Julian Garman – 30th August 2022

Janet was unwell and could not attend, but Julian blew up a storm.

The tunes were varied and the audience sang and danced along.

David’s creative corner went well. Note the programme for the Plumstead Artists Open Studios 2022 – you can read more here.

The “Library” offered plenty of space for dancing to Julian’s tunes.

Gary came from The Greenwich Carers Centre to offers confidential advice to our members. The Centre has lots of useful information here.

The Reflections Friendship Group is next at Shrewsbury House on 13th September at 1pm.

Tom Carradine will entertain us for the first time at our next session. You can see more of Tom and his cockney sing-a-longs here.

You may now nominate Reflections as your charity when you buy items on Amazon. Click here for more information. It does not cost you (or the retailer) anything and Reflections will receive 0.5% of what you spend.