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Julian Garman – 25th April 2023

Our favourite multi-instrumentalist gave us a entertaining afternoon.

There was much singing-a-long.

Badminton made a comeback.

David’s clay tilers were busy as usual.

The dancing became rather wild.

The Reflections Friendship Group is next at Shrewsbury House on 9th May at 1pm. Vikki will be back to entertain us.

Please note: in our uploaded photos we blur the faces of all group members. You do see the faces of our wonderful volunteers.

Mark Sedgwick – 11th April 2023

Mark was back for his second visit.

We were treated to an excellent performance of some great tunes.

Gyda was busy leading the paper crafts.

David had his ever popular clay tilers.

We enjoyed seeing some of our new members dancing the afternoon away with our regulars.

John (from our wonderfully supportive Rotary Club of Greenwich) came to see the group. Here he is explaining to me how he doesn’t dance, but by the end of the afternoon he was dancing along with everyone else.

The Reflections Friendship Group is next at Shrewsbury House on 25th April at 1pm. Julian will be back to entertain us.

Please note: in our uploaded photos we blur the faces of all group members. You do see the faces of our wonderful volunteers.

Carers Group: 3/4/23

Janet’s information piece

Janet told the group about the The Shared Lives Schemes.

The schemes support adults with learning disabilities, mental health problems or other needs that make it harder for them to live on their own. The schemes match someone who needs care with an approved carer. The carer shares their family and community life, and gives care and support to the person with care needs.

Some people move in with their shared lives carer, while others are regular daytime visitors. Some combine daytime and overnight visits.

Read more on the schemes from the NHS here.

Janet also spoke about the latest news from the Alzheimer’s Society Innovation Hub – see below.

Innovations from the Alzheimer’s Society Innovation Hub

Eargym hearing app for hearing health checks.

Hearing loss isn’t just for older people. From understanding your hearing age, to strengthening your hearing skills with immersive games – Eargym aims to make better hearing accessible for all.

Hearing loss and dementia related. Hearing loss is correlated with mild cognitive impairment and dementia. Research shows that even mild hearing loss doubles the risk of dementia (see the RNI:D article here), while moderate hearing loss triples the risk, and severe hearing loss can increase the risk up to five times. To reduce the risks of hearing loss and dementia, it is important to look after your hearing and health and treat even mild hearing difficulties. 

The Alzheimer’s Society suggests the following ways to support someone with hearing loss and dementia: 

  • Ensuring regular hearing health checks 
  • Wearing hearing aids and treating the hearing loss as directed by an audiologist
  • Learning to communicate with visual cues, prompts, gestures and expressions

Sibstar a debit card for people with dementia.

The Alzheimer’s Society say Sibstar is the first, highly secure debit card and app designed to help families living with dementia to safely manage their daily spending. Amongst other things, the app gives you the ability to set daily and monthly spending limits, switch cashpoint, and online it adapts as the needs of individual customers change, delivering financial independence and enabling people with dementia to continue living life the way they choose. The costs are: £4.99 setup, £4.99 a month to run the app and 99p per withdrawal.

New and improved Jelly drops

Jelly Drops have launched a new version of their sugar-free sweet designed to help those with dementia who struggle to hydrate! They claim to be tastier, easier to eat & with 60% less plastic packaging. New Jelly Drops still contain 95% water with added electrolytes to support hydration. You can find out more here.

Member updates

Moving into a care home

A daughter gave an update on her mum. She is still in a care home, but she seems more like her old self. The daughter is seeing a financial advisor and is getting a house valuation. The social worker is still chasing her to move her Mum into a permanent location. However there are no spaces available that will meet her mum’s needs. Tatiana recommended asking to speak to the social worker’s manager to discuss the situation and next steps.

This article here suggests the local authority will fund the first six weeks of a temporary care home placement, where a person needs to be moved out of a hospital. If a suitable permanent place can not be found within six weeks, discussion will need to be had regarding next steps. This may mean taking on the payment of the care home place until such time as a permanent place is found.

Another move

Another daughter said her mum has had Covid in Queen Elizabeth hospital, but tested negative today. She is going to Charlton Park home tomorrow (04/04/23). She has a social worker who is learning as she goes along, but they are on quite good terms. The daughter is trying to get a financial assessment done. She has been told her mum has to have 24 hour care. She says she has got over the guilt of placing her mum in care. She said she had been told there would be a panel to discuss her situation but didn’t know what this involved. Tatiana explained the process of going to the panel to decide what happens – there is shared information from all those involved in deciding her mum’s care and the carer should be invited to give their input too. Care homes have to work with carers in placing people in the right place.

More care needed

A new member spoke about caring for her husband. They have a supportive family, but she now needs a bit more help. Her husband has planned surgery in early May and lots of appointments. He has hearing issues and had trouble with his hearing aid. – they had issues with Lewisham hospital who said they couldn’t see him for a few weeks. As his wife knew how loss of hearing affected her husband, they ended up going privately to Devika James on Lee High Road – they were very pleased with their service. The husband is now more vulnerable than he was and needs more help and is more reliant on her. She takes time out to meet a friend once a month. The husband has been referred to groups, Live well with dementia, and Cognitive stimulation group at Oxleas, plus another group at Age exchange.

Waiting lists

A sister has become more belligerent and uses colourful language. The Memory Clinic said the family will have to wait until things get really bad before they will intervene.  There are ongoing issues with her taking her meds. She is still deciding when she’s going to take them. Janet asked if is there a mental capacity test coming up. Apparently there is a 6-7 month back log, so they are waiting. Her brother was concerned about his sister saying inappropriate things when they are out, as she is prone to make personal remarks about others. This is something she never used to do. Janet advised having a discreet word with the person the comment is aimed at if he feels they heard, saying words along the lines of “I’m so sorry, my sister isn’t well ”.

Advancing symptoms

A wife has become harder to look after while the husband is away a break, as she has trouble going up the stairs. She can’t work out at times how to use her feet. Janet asked if he had considered a care home placement while he is away. He felt a respite place would throw her out of routine as it would not be familiar and she would be better at home. The husband said he has got used to how his wife is, but her daughter still finds it hard. 

Gyda read: “The Good  Feelings”:

The May meeting is canceled due to the coronation Bank holiday. Next meeting will be on 5th June.

Jamie Steen – 28th March 2023

A 1970s themed poptastic show from our man of many costumes. Who remembers Lena Zavaroni from the 1970s?

Jamie dazzled us with his exotic outfits. He has been entertaining the group since June 2018 and is as popular as ever.

David’s group of clay modellers are progressing their designs.

The room was rocking to familiar tunes.

I enjoyed my visit to the group and the chance to meet Reflections’ friend Gwen (the Pearly Queen of Royal Greenwich).

The Reflections Friendship Group is next at Shrewsbury House on 11th April at 1pm. Mark will entertain us with his second visit to the group.

Please note: in our uploaded photos we blur the faces of all group members. You do see the faces of our wonderful volunteers.

Tony Martin – 14th March 2023

Tony warmed us up on a cold day.

Another great sing-a-long.

Amongst Tony’s tunes were “My Guy”:

“O Boy” and Blue Suede Shoes”:

Gyda was helping create more paper art.

David’s potters were busy pottering.

There was much singing and dancing.

The Reflections Friendship Group is next at Shrewsbury House on 28th March at 1pm. Jamie will entertain us.

Please note: in our uploaded photos we blur the faces of all group members. You do see the faces of our wonderful volunteers.

Carers Group: 13/3/23

Janet’s information piece

Janet again recommended members have a look at the Dementia Careblazers YouTube and web sites (see below for more details).

A good place to find a wide variety of articles on dementia is the Alzheimer’s Society Dementia Together Magazine and factsheets on their website.

For those going into care or hospital the Alzheimer’s Society “This is me” document can be helpful.

Independent Age also has information on a wide range of topics affecting older people on their website with booklets that can be ordered or downloaded.

About Dementia Careblazers

There is a lot of useful information on the YouTube video channel Dementia Careblazers run by Dr Natali Edmonds a psychogeriatrician (website: Careblazers.com). There are videos on many topics most of which are short. There is a free course available too, which is one and a half hours, available by providing an email address. Peter did the course and thought it was good. Be mindful, however, if you give your email address to access the free course as you will get lots of emails from Dr. E. You will need to unsubscribe, if you don’t want to receive these.

Member updates

Stability

A member’s dad continues to be stable. Lately he gets fixated on things that pop into his head. It can be challenging. At times he still believes he is at work and will ask his daughter why his meeting has not started. The daughter says “I’ll find out” rather than saying “I don’t know”, which seems to diffuse the situation. She has also been doing talking therapy at the Deborah Ubee Trust and said it helped her to order her thoughts.

Ups and downs

A brother is up and down. How he is varies from week to week. The sister mentioned a book by Oliver James on dementia Contented Dementia which she found helpful.

Coping with change

We had an update on a member’s mum, following her fall and stay in the Queen Elizabeth hospital. She is now in the Oaks Care Home, which she says is brilliant. They have sorted out her hair, nails etc. It’s only an interim placement. The daughter is having a difficult time finding a place she feels happy with for her mum that is closer to where she lives. Tatiana recommended making an unannounced visit to care homes, as well as arranged ones. Since she went into the care home, mum is a lot better, the delirium has gone, but she’s not stable enough to move out of her room.

Another mum was still in the QE. Three weeks ago her mum forgot who her daughter was. She wasn’t coping at home and had several falls. She was being found by the carer following the fall. The daughter is experiencing difficulties finding somewhere for her mum. Tatiana gave advice on different options, care packages and assessments.

A wife talked about her recent holiday with her husband. They went on holiday to Revitalise in Chigwall. Revitalise specialise in supported breaks. Everyone was very kind. They went to see The Lion King and had a trip on a narrow boat. Unfortunately her husband was taken ill while away and had to go to the local hospital. He had a chest infection and caught covid. His wife also got a sickness bug, but was allowed to stay at Revitalise until the husband was able to go home. She has decided that she needs respite, so for her next break her husband is going into care while she goes to see family.

Next meeting has been moved to 3rd April 2023 due to Easter

Vikki Melrose – 28th February 2023

Another excellent performance from Vikki.

Some very familiar tunes had the group singing along.

You can hear (and see) more of Vikki here.

Gyda encouraged some colourful artwork and David enabled some members to create interesting clay tiles.

The singing and dancing continued until the close of play at 3pm.

Janet brought in some of the books from our carers’ library and Helen, our Reflection’s librarian, managed the lending.

The Reflections Friendship Group is next at Shrewsbury House on 14th March at 1pm. Tony will entertain us.

Please note: in our uploaded photos we blur the faces of all group members. You do see the faces of our wonderful volunteers.

Julian Garman – 14th February 2023

Valentines Day. The sun was out and the group enjoyed some rousing tunes with our favourite multi-instrumentalist.

The boogie boogie bugle boy of Shrewsbury House.

Here is Julian singing “Reet Petite”:

You can hear Julian’s tunes here.

The Valentine’s word search was popular, accompanied by a cuppa and a snack.

You need to get your knees up! The volunteers are very keen on exercise.

Julian’s tribute to Frank Sinatra is here:

The Reflections Friendship Group is next at Shrewsbury House on 28th February at 1pm. Vikki will entertain us.

Please note: in our uploaded photos we blur the faces of all group members. You do see the faces of our wonderful volunteers.

Carers Group: 13/2/23

Janet’s information piece

The Reflections website has a recordings tab with songs from some of our favourite entertainers: Marks Music, Jamie’s Showtime, Julian’s Jukebox and Tony’s Tunes.

Janet has recently found a useful YouTube video channel called Dementia Careblazers run by Dr Natali Edmonds (website: Careblazers.com). There are videos on many topics most of which are short. There is a free course available too, which is one and a half hours, by providing an email address. Peter did the course and thought it was good. Be mindful, however, if you give your email address you will get lots of emails from Dr. E. So you will need to unsubscribe, if you don’t want to receive these.

Dementia together magazine is free (from the Alzheimer’s Society) or you can have a digital copy. In the latest edition they cover eye care at home. Continued eye care is very important for patients with dementia and regular eye tests are important. Specsavers do home visits, as do others.

Member updates

A lack of understanding

A couple said things are not any easier for the person they care for. She has been to the Memory Clinic. The drug she was prescribed was only taken for 4 days. Once she read the information that came with the drug, she wouldn’t take it. She is also becoming forgetful and can use inappropriate language. Her brother is worn out by it all and is trying to step back a bit. Tatiana asked what are the medical next steps? She is being monitored, with an expected appointment in 3 months. Tatiana then asked if they had been given any recommendations and advised emailing their concerns, asking what can they do and is there another meeting planned. Janet said the person needs an mental capacity assessment and needs to be made aware of the consequences of not taking their meds. The couple think she doesn’t understand. Tatiana advised going back to the Memory Clinic consultant/ lead  professional with their concerns.

Goodbye

One of our longest standing group members came to her last meeting. Her step-father is moving to Beckenham with his son. They are looking for assisted living for him. They are also in the process of clearing the house (40 years of “junk” – he is a hoarder). She said the group has been instrumental in supporting her Mum and her step-dad.

Coping

Another carer said his mum is fairly happy at the moment and enjoys life as much as she can. He has been on a “Coping with dementia” course run by MIND. It was very good. He is thinking about moving to a ground floor flat, so that he could use a wheelchair and take his mum outside as she is largely bed bound. Janet suggested speaking to Donna Godfrey, the specialist dementia nurse, for some support and advice.

Unsafe discharge from hospital

Another carer reported her mum had a fall and is in Queen Elizabeth hospital. Her daughter is unable to visit, as she has Covid. The mum was having trouble swallowing. There was concern when the son of the carer witnessed his nan being force-fed by a member of the hospital team. When he raised it as his nan’s cheeks were full of food, the reply was, we are very busy so I need to get this done. Janet & Tatiana suggested raising this with the hospital as no matter how short of time the team are, someone with swallowing issues cannot eat any quicker. Mum is currently not mobile and the QE plan to discharge mum with a care package of 4 visits – the group thought there was an issue with this being an unsafe discharge, putting mum at risk. No one in the family can help currently and the daughter can’t help 24/7. Janet advised speaking to the dementia nurse, Kate. The daughter wants her mum to have an interim placement to see if her Mum can further recover. Tatiana asked if there is a hospital social worker involved. Not as far as the daughter knows. Tatiana felt from what was said, if the hospital were to go ahead with a discharge on Friday she considered it would be an unsafe. Tatiana advised emailing Kate and copying-in the social worker in the community who did the earlier assessment, stating if the discharge goes ahead it will be unsafe. [update: the email did the trick – the discharge team agreed to reassess mum and she has now been assigned a social worker – the daughter is very pleased]

Holiday

A wife told us she and husband  are ok. Next week they are going on a respite holiday with Revitalise, a place for people with disabilities and their carers

Feeling lucky

A new group member said he was feeling fairly lucky at the moment, given all the issues he had listened to this evening. He was interested in the course from MIND and will look into booking.

Next meeting 13th March 2023.

Jamie Steen – 31st January 2023

A New Year’s Rock ‘n’ Roll party.

Buddy Holly, John Lennon and Nancy Sinatra all sang for us.

Here is Jamie singing “Rock around the clock”, “Jailhouse rock” and “Shake rattle and roll”:

You can hear more of Jamies’s tunes here.

Gyda’s craft for the day was Chinese New Year bunnies, for the Year of the Rabbit.

A packed room enjoyed Jamie’s “Dedicated Follower of Fashion”. We were delighted it was our biggest turn-out since before lockdown.

“The Locomotion” was a popular choice for a conga line.

Fans of Jamie may see his latest panto role here:

The Reflections Friendship Group is next at Shrewsbury House on 14th February at 1pm. Julian will entertain us.

Please note: in our uploaded photos we blur the faces of all group members. You do see the faces of our wonderful volunteers.