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A visit to the dentist: how to get it right

Dental hygiene is important for everyone, but can be a challenge for someone with dementia. Dementia friendly dentists are available and, under NHS guidelines, are given longer to deal with someone with dementia. For more information on Dental treatment for people with special needs click here.

A friend who is supporting her mum with dementia, who lives in Bromley, shared with us her recent experience of taking her mum to the dentist –

“For a several years visits to the dentist have not been good.  As soon as the chair was tipped straight back Mum would start to panic, wave her arms and legs around and make a lot of noise.  The dentist barely looked in her mouth, would sit her up and say good girl, off you go!  Previous to that, she would get very panicky with the sucker and water squirting thing in her mouth if she had to have a filling.

I found a new dentist, though was still dreading taking mum, but:

The dentist was amazing. In fact, all of the staff made a fuss of Mum. The dentist made friends with Mum gave her lots of compliments and sat down and chatted with her. There was no rush at all. She explained what she was going to do and got Mum really relaxed.  She did a good inspection and two x-rays. Prescribed some special toothpaste and we were asked to come back on Friday to see the hygienist. The dentist said if Mum does not like it then she can stop it whenever she has had enough and not to worry about it. She really was a lovely dentist – I want to change to her!!!!

So, as we left, Mum said to her this is a really nice place to come and get my hair done – everyone just smiled happily at her. On the way back to the car she said well that is definitely the place to come and get your eyes done and then as we got home she asked if those people in the waiting room were all waiting to see the vet!!!  When I left her she said she had enjoyed her afternoon and we must do that again. I think we can safely say it was a successful visit to the dentist.

On Friday, the second trip to the dentist was a rip roaring success too!!  I just can’t believe how well this all went. I was unable to park so close so had to use the wheelchair as soon as I arrived on the front path a nurse was out to assist. She took Mum in leaving me to deal with the chair. The waiting room was very busy and she got Mum seated and was chatting to her. She said that the hygienist was running late so we sat for about 15 mins during which time Mum wanted to know if everyone was waiting for the vet.

The hygienist was absolutely brilliant with Mum. She sat and had a chat to her told her what she was going to do and asked if that was all ok. I had warned them what would happen if the chair was tipped back too much so she took it back a little way and asked if that was ok and Mum said it was. She then asked if it could go back a little more and Mum agreed. This happened several times until Mum said could she come back up a little and that was not a problem. When the hygienist was happy that Mum was completely ok she had a look in her mouth. She gave Mum lots of praise for the way she has looked after her teeth and then told her what she needed to do. Rather than use the whirring water dispensing equipment she descaled them manually very slowly and very gently. Mum was so relaxed. After the descaling Charlotte explained that she would like to clean/polish Mum’s teeth. She showed Mum the brush switched it on so she could hear it, explained what the paste would taste like etc and Mum happily agreed for her to do it. I was completely amazed. Brilliant. After we got back in the car Mum said she was really nice, but she didn’t do much to my feet!

So going to the dentist can be that good.”

If you have any experiences of the dentist, please do share them.

7 March: visit from Thorntree Primary School

We had a great session today. 30 Friends came, supported by 7 team members.

We were delighted to welcome 27 young people from Thorntree school, supported by three adults (including the headteacher, Miss Fenwick).

This was the initiative of Elle, whose great grand mother attends Reflections. Knowing that we do not receive funding, she asked the school if she and her classmates could be sponsored to dance for the group. Elle, shown in the middle of the photo below, also choreographed the dance.*

The pupils performed a great dance routine and then mingled with the group – they even provided goody-bags for all, which included sweets and a tea bag – so thoughtful.

It was lovely to see the younger and older generations mixing together. The children were polite, well mannered and a credit to their school.

One of our Friends is seen here demonstrating his juggling skills to a rapt audience.

It was an excellent event, which everyone enjoyed. Thank you to eveyone involved and to Elle, in particular, for coming up with the idea and making sure it happened.

Thank you to Miss Fenwick and all those participating for their enthusiasm, engagement and fun. We look forward to welcoming you back in the future.

Prior to their arrival, the Greenwich Commissioning Officer visited. She had heard about our group and wanted to find out more about what we were doing. She said the team were doing fantastic work and it was a very well run group.

All-in-all a great day.

* The school confirmed consent had been given for photos to be taken and used on our web site. I have blurred the faces of Friends.

Carers Group –  Good news update

We know it can be difficult for carers to leave the person with dementia so we are pleased to announce, by prior arrangement, we are able to support a person with dementia alongside the carers’ group.

This is all thanks to Julie and Marie, two of our lovely team members who have offered their services. You can meet them here.  Julie and Marie will interact with people in the same way they do at the Friendship group and similar activities will be provided such as playing games – dominoes is very popular –  doing word searches and adult coloring.

Spaces at present are limited to 4 people and must be booked in advance. It is also a requirement the person with dementia is comfortable being in a separate room to their carer.

Please telephone the Reflections team on 07981 741 499 if you are interested. Places can be booked up to and including the morning the group takes place.

David Baddiel on C4: The Trouble with Dad [Pick’s disease]

(This programme is available to watch on 4OD until 19 March 2017)

We just caught up with the recent Chanel 4 programme: The Trouble with Dad. It’s well worth a watch, although I should warn you there is lots of very strong language.

C4 say: “David Baddiel’s dad Colin has Pick’s disease. This intimate, moving and sometimes funny documentary explores the impact that Colin’s condition has on his sons’ relationship with him.”

You can find clips here

And a Radio Times article here

The changes that occur with Pick’s disease, also known as Frontotemporal dementia, can affect peoples behaviour and speech.

For more information about this form of dementia see the Alzheimer’s Society information pages here

A fact sheet is also available here

June’s Oral History Project

June is in the process of setting up a small project to record the fascinating memories of some of our group members.

I spoke to June yesterday about her ideas and signed-up to be part of the work. Janet and I have been doing some work on oral histories with family and friends, this looks like a great next step to that work.

Thank you to Phil for telling us about oral history work. Capturing memories now, means they can be played back in the future, perhaps at a time when a person is less able to recall them.

If you would like to know more about the project see here

21 February

Today we had a great Friendship Group session at Shrewsbury House. Tony gave us another wonderful all-singing-and-dancing hour. The group singing was loud – so Tony, we think you are going to need some amplification. Lovely to see the ladies in the wheelchairs joining-in.

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I blurred some faces in the picture to ensure privacy – and sorry to those whom I couldn’t squeeze in.

Good to see Kathy and Kim return. Amazing to see Kathy dance the afternoon away, even with a bad back.

32 Friends came today, plus all our lovely volunteers. Welcome to Marie, our newest team member, on her first visit – hopefully the first of many. Joan was busy elsewhere, so she volunteered to sharpen all the pencils this evening!

Thanks to Matthew for the tasty choice of food in the cafe, I certainly enjoyed my sandwich and coffee.

Hope to see you all in two weeks.

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Dementia Friends session

I plan to run another Dementia Friends session on 18th April. The session will help you learn more about what it is like to live with dementia and turn that understanding into action. If you are interested in coming along please e-mail me on reflectionsgreenwich@gmail.com.

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[Dementia Friends Champion]

You can find more information about Dementia Friends here.